CLeaR YoUr DoubTs

Have you ever have doubts about something and din clear the doubts? Today i found that it is truely important to clear our each and every doubts that we have. Dont assume things, things may not be as bad as we thought they are. Having doubts and misunderstand may lead to fatal problems and also change ones view about something or someone.

Me and a group of friends was viewing one of my friend's hp (although it is very bad, he/she still allowed us) we was viewing if he/she has any secret msg. And we come across his/her sent items and to our shock, we saw a msg that was sent via his/her hp to his/her hp??!! And the content was like telling some problems and feelings... to himself/herself??!! We was stunned and lost of words, looking puzzled to one another. Then luckily, one of my other friend suggested that we should ask him/her then solved the mystery. Haha.. it was all juz a stupid act that he/she was actually messaging to himself/herself first before messaging to a friend. And realli confirmed coz we saw the person that he/she msg, in the outbox too. To think that if we din ask him/her, we would have thought that he/she was having some psycho problem or having some invisible friends. Hahha.. if he/she is reading tis, i realli want to apologize that we forced him/her to let us see his/her hp and am feeling guilty that i actualli thought he/she got some problem at that very moment..Sorry..Hee..

From this incident, i realli learnt that if we have any doubts, we have to clear them on the spot, dont wait till things turn bad. Dont only believe wat see or heard, ASK! I remember one email i read some time back abt misunderstanding between a couple, till the husband died then the wife found out the truth for everything, but it was too late. In order to improve or not to spoilt your relationship, be it friend or loved-ones, dont keep everything to yourselves. Ask what you want or need to know, dont let a doubt stain your mind.

GaiN SoMe, LosE SoMe

Do you find that in the meanwhile of gaining something, you will tend to lose something? Why life just cant be perfect? Or is it that we are too lazy or busy to gain back the things that we had lost. It realli need alot of determination and courage for some. And depend on situations too.
For me, after spending two years in working-life, i decided to go back to study-life, i am gaining the knowledge i want, some freedom in life, relaxing times, and feel young again but i lost the experience in work, finance stability and shopping treats. I began to regret... and start thinking back whether am i making the right choice, esp when i having stress in exams and finance crisis. I feel more stress this year as i had done badly in Exams, so i have to put in more time in my studies and revising my work. But the more stress i give to myself, the more i feel that i cant seem to get things done. I felt that time spent with my friends, sisters and family had cut-down, sometimes i even felt myself being at turn-off mode. I felt that i began to have those "cant be bother more" attitude, which i felt very sad. I hope to shower more care and concern for closed-ones but i cant seem to have the time. But now, things are getting better after i poured out all my troubled thoughts with my sister.

For some, when they start to begin a BGR, they gained one who love them or one they loved, more care and concern, attention or material and can even learnt how to maintain a good relationship, in the meanwhile, they may or may not discovered that they have neglected their friends. Some will be totally turn-off, rejecting every invitations of outings, some will more passive, waiting for friends to invite out and some will even depends on their bf/gf moods to whether going on an outing or not. What about U?
Whatever reasons may be, friends need maintenance too. If you lost touch with them for too long, you will feel more "out-of-place" and reject more in meeting up.

Put some afford in, start meeting, calling or message your friends whom u always missed but seldom contact, to show how much you missed or care for them.